Cliche' title isn't it. I wanted to write about this a long time ago. It's quite a serious issue and i believe not many of us would agree to get married first before dating.
Of course as for me it's related more to religious aspects. Well, as muslims we are actually allowed to see and meet someone we like through a process called Taaruf. Which both parties will meet each other accompanied by their families or relatives. It will starts from a scratch to a continuous line. InsyaAllah, itu adalah Jodoh daripada Allah. :) Then we will see how it goes.
"kolot la awak ni, mana ada orang buat camtu zaman sekarang" i was so suprised that came out from my close friends. Fine kalau tak suka tapi jangan kita mempersendakan benda yang dah pasti benar. It's just an advice for myself and everyone =)
this is not a conventional way. I know we are living in the modern world or such but i believe that Islam suits any era.it's proven. kita sebagai manusia sahaja kadang-kadang lalai dan degil. we tend to forget to thank what the creator has given us..ia adalah seketul daging yang bernama hati. Everyday we have to clean it . of course clorox it's not the solution. kena selalu berzikir dan berdoa. Jauhi hasad dengki dan iri hati. InsyaAllah kalau hati kita bersih, kita tak akan mengeluh walau sedikit pon dengan dugaan atau kesusahan.Instead, we are getting stronger because we know that it would be worth the wait.
Me myself is not that perfect to follow everything but I'm trying here. My shield is not strong enough to resist the whisper of satan either. Everyone wants to be loved and to love. Have you ever fall in love with someone but never confess and it drives you crazy? It hurts seeing him/her loves somebody else. Tapi itu semua lumrah. Kalau lah dalam dunia ini semua orang belajar hadapi kenyataan. MESTI AMAN DUNIA.
Allah S.W.T berfirman, "Mungkin kamu menyukai sesuatu, tetapi amat buruk bagimu". Tak semestinya apa yang kita nak kita akan dapat.
Tapi, tak semua orang bole terima dengan hati yang tenang. That's why we have to take good care of our heart. Kalau ada sifat nak memiliki, itu tak bagus. Itu bukan cinta. Benar, semua orang nak berkahwin dengan pilihan hati sendiri. Jatuh cinta, bercinta, berdating, tgk movie,lepak-lepak. Tiba-tiba.."BREAK UP". Sedih. Frust. Why do we have to spend everything for the one that's not meant for us...?
Lagi manis kalau spend everything to your loved ones, i mean your husband or wife. Ini lepas kahwin terus stop dating. no more tengok wayang. no more makan bersuap.apa ni. kata sayang..kata cinta. You know why? Because you've already done almost everything before getting married. Cepat lah bosan. Not everyone i must say, but almost 60% husband & wife are like that.
Sometimes, ada juga mereka yang nak berkahwin tetapi dapat halangan parents. Hem, kenapa jadi macam ni. Sepatutnya sebagai orang tua, patut menyokong anak-anak. Pernikahan bukan nya sesuatu yang memalukan. Dengan alasannya muda lagi atau masih belum stabil. Allah dah berjanji, selepas berkahwin rezeki akan bertambah. Kenapa perlu risau pasal duit tak cukup. Kenapa perlu risau dengan kata-kata orang. Kenapa tak pernah consider Yang Maha Esa? Asalkan calonnya memenuhi syarat wajib berkahwin kan dah memadai. Saya masih tak faham dengan orang melayu yang terlalu mengikut adat dan membelakangi agama. =(
Ini adalah general sahaja. My own opinion. Because i also have experienced myself. In fact a lots of time. It's was not meant to be. Akhirnya sia-sia sahaja. Now i know why. Alhamdulillah that i'm strong enough to move on..yes deep inside still got the scar, InsyaAllah dengan Doa ia akan hilang dengan sendirinya. I believe that Allah has a better plan for me. Di mana ada kesulitan pasti ada kemudahan. =) Hopefully i'll be given a Man to be my lawfully wedded husband and He will complete my life in the world and hereafter. Amin
